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“But I Don’t Know How To Do That…”

Posted on11. Nov, 2010 by Setema Gali.

…is an often and familiar heard phrase from people who “want” to become wealthy, or to start that business or to lose weight but they never get started because they say “But I Don’t Know How.”

Get rid of that phrase by learning how to learn and facing the fear of why you don’t go and learn OR die a slow death of regret, desperation and misery.

Do you think successful people walk around saying “but I don’t know how to do that?” The answer is NO. And if they don’t know how…they go and learn how. They don’t let the fear of ‘not knowing how’ stop them.

Guess what? Wanna know something funny yet simple about every type of success when it comes to family, business, communication and especially money?

Money is something you learn. Business is something you learn.

Shooting a free throw is a learnable skill. Becoming a leader is a learnable skill. Fixing cars is something you learn. Yep it really is possible to learn anything especially with our friend Mr. Google.

For those stuck in a rut of depression, discouragement and frustration the damaging phrase “I don’t know how” becomes a habitual way of life and will poison you slowly till you look back with regret and anger at the life that could have been. [...]

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Books, Swords, War…Life-Changing!

Posted on14. Jan, 2010 by Setema Gali.

A friend of mine asked “What books have changed your life?”

So here it is…

I understand clearly her question in context.

The truth is…books, things, jobs, situations, catastrophe, war…they don’t change our lives…

WE CHANGE OUR LIVES by the action we take, by the knowledge we internalize, by the we way choose to react to everything that happens to us.

“It’s not what happens to us that matters…it’s what happens within us that makes the difference.”

I’ve known many people who have suffered great loss and come out of it a better and stronger person for it. [...]

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How to Be More Effective When You Feel Overwhelmed

Posted on12. Mar, 2009 by Setema Gali.

I have a little 2 year old son who is a huge part of my life.  I come home and he runs to me and jumps on me and kisses me. We laugh, play, run around, watch TV together and eat a lot together. 

My wife is now pregnant with our second child which fills me with gratitude. We miscarried six months ago and that was a learning experience for both of us. My wife is incredible.

Why do I share this? Because the 1st trimester for my wife is difficult and challenging. She eats, sleeps a lot, pukes, is achy, sleeps some more, is achy some more and you get the picture. So for the past two months I have been playing Mr. Mom. Laundry, cleaning, sweeping, dishes, diaper changing, cooking, shopping etc. 

I feel incredibly overwhelmed right now. I stay home everyday so my wife can sleep and get through this 1st trimester. The first couple weeks I kept up on the chores around the house. In doing this I neglected building my business, writing my book, and even hitting the gym. 

Now, I am completely overwhelmed. The laundry is piled up, I do my most effective work late at night when my son is sleeping and I am behind on every project I have started. Did I mention that the laundry is piled up?

What have I learned?

1-That you won’t get everything done no matter what you do. You won’t so stop trying and create different objectives. If your objective is to get everything done you are setting yourself up for failure. Create an objective like “Do the dishes with gratitude” or clean while you listen to your favorite music or audio book. I attened a seminar a while back and this is the first thing they taught-that you won’t get it all done so do the most important things and forget about the distractions.

2-Take a break. This is the sharpening the saw principle. When cutting a tree down stop every once in a while to sharpen your saw. Get out of the house and go grab an ice cream. Go to the gym. Talk with adults (staying at home usually leaves you with your children and you definitely need adult conversation). Go for a walk. Clear your head. Take a break from all you are doing then get back to it.

3-Express gratitude. Instead of focusing on EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO GET DONE find the joy and greatness in what you are doing. I am so grateful I can change my sons diapers. I am so grateful to do dishes or laundry. With all of today’s modern conveniences we ofttimes complain about hard things are. Try crossing the plains with a handcart like the Pioneers did. Try cooking on an open fire and boiling water to drink. Try hunting for your food or beating your clothes to clean them.

4-Keep moving forward. When you stop, take a deep breath, look around and recognize the progression, then keep pressing forward.  Keep fighting forward.  Keep loving forward.  Keep living forward. Meet the Robinsons is a great movie to watch. If you fail, congratulations, keep moving forward now.

I still feel overwhelmed right now, but I am happily overwhelmed and I wouldnt’ wish it any other way. I am growing and learning.  

Any suggestions. Please post a comment or suggestion of what you do when you feel overwhelmed. this is I Learning Global at its best; growing and learning together. 

Setema

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